November 23, 2020

For decades I have heard adults and children voice variations on the following laments:“I wonder what people will think when I . . .”“If I do X, people will think I’m stupid.”“How do I look in this?”“I’m too fat.”“I wish I had a different nose.”“When I’m a star in the NBA . . .”“If only

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November 18, 2020

Recently I spoke with Mark, who described his mother in rather unflattering terms: critical, controlling, nagging, ungrateful. After a couple of minutes I said, “It sounds like you don’t enjoy being around your mother much.” “No, I really don’t,” he replied. “Odd, then, that you ended up marrying her, don’t you think?” Mark scowled and asked, “What do

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November 12, 2020

You Have Been Falsely Accused of Some OffenseFrequently people call me to complain about an argument with someone who falsely accused them of some offense. “No matter what I said in my defense,” the caller says, “The other person just rolled his eyes and continued to attack me.” I have seen this so often—and experienced it

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September 16, 2020

The longstanding conflict we call racism is NOT ABOUT RACE. It’s about people—of all colors and beliefs—who don’t know how to love each other unconditionally. It’s About Love and the Lack of it. Surely that statement is simplistic? NO! We simply don’t know how to love people unconditionally, including our own children. We don’t genuinely love

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June 12, 2020

Do You Get Angry And Frustrated With Your Children? Learn How You Can Stop It I’m going to teach youThe REAL reason you become angry at your children (and it’s not what you think).Why you just can’t seem to control your anger, no matter what you do.What you can do to ELIMINATE—not just manage—your anger. Really.How you

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