This book has an amazing message. The principles that, Greg brings up are something we have all experienced in our lifetimes, in small doses and interspersed with ours and others, “Getting and Protecting,” behaviors. It almost seems too simple; however, I am reminded of the phrase, “it’s simple but, not easy.”

This is a most remarkable book . The world would be a better place if people understood what's in this book. Your world will be a better, much sweeter world, if you read this book. My husband has turned in to the sweetest man overnight.

I've read a lot of books. I've had a lot of therapy. I picked up this book and within two or three pages I'd highlighted several passages. Dr. Baer has a way of tapping into a soft place in my heart and cultivating love and compassion. I've already bought copies for a couple of family members, it's that good. I'm writing this before finishing the book because it's affected me in such a profound way already. Reading it so far has been like being enveloped in a big hug.

Outstanding. Life changing. I’ve given copies to everyone I care about and love. So grateful to better understand getting and protecting behaviors.

This is one of the best books I’ve ever read. It changed my life. I am happier and healthier because of reading it and applying it to my life and relationships. I highly recommend it to everyone!

I liked the background to why relationships are so difficult. The concept of unconditional love vs. conditional love is very clear...we all have partially empty buckets until we learn to focus on the unconditional love, according to Baer, the author. Once you begin to remember the unconditional love sources, then you can give love to those who are still trying to survive on conditional love or Imitation love sources such as food, drugs, affairs, alcohol, fame...and other such temporary fixes.