Every day I talk to people who bitterly complain about circumstances in their lives: spouses, children, workāthe usual. Itās a spiral of victimhood that never seems to end for many, so often I try to help them focus on a path that is far more productiveālike receiving the love Iām giving them in that moment, for example. But many of these victims continue to argue, fight, and sulk, in the very moment that theyāre being offered what they need most.
Victims are lost in the desert and screaming that theyāre hungry and thirsty. You can hand them a plate of food and drink, but many of them throw it on the ground and continue to scream that theyāre starving. They are determined to eat the sand theyāre familiar with, rather than simply eat what would save their lives.
All you can do is offer. Some victims eventually become hungry enough to accept your love, but with others you need to realize at some point that nothing you do will make a difference. You cannot make them eat.