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Topics covered in this Video Chat:
00:00 Guidelines in groups are for increasing the love that can be given and received.
06:18 Victims define listening as getting what they want.
08:30 Choosing to love means giving freely and giving as much as we can.
12:10 A people-pleaser fears she will never have a 'personality'; develop it by taking chances.
17:00 You can never make victims happy so love her as well as you can.
19:15 People who demand explanations are never satisfied. Woman learns how to not let herself feel trapped by daughter's expectations that she babysit the grandchildren.
28:38 Creating a 'Freedom List' of all the behaviors they are letting go of.
32:24 We are taught from childhood that we have to answer our parents' questions.
35:31 Greg shares stories of his grandchildren, who are growing up unconditionally loved.
37:46 Commitment: men are more diligent about avoiding pain and run away, and women are more optimistic and try to control relationships.
43:22 Why therapy has a terrible rate of success–wounds are exposed but there is no healing.
45:00 Recognizing when we have the capacity to be loving or not and then making a decision.
48:17 Wife talks constantly and husband wants to know how to love her and preserve his ability to love.
52:30 Woman decides to tell the truth of how she was wrong with former supervisor.