Chewing Gravel

By Greg Baer M.D.

December 12, 2016


From very early childhood nearly all of us were taught principles about happiness and relationships that were wrong. Dead wrong. But now we can learn how to find and share Real Love. Despite that hope and direction, our past learning has a very strong influence, so we have a tendency to repeat what we learned.  

Brenda vigorously expressed a desire to find Real Love and happiness.

It’s a start.

Brenda liked to do things her way, however, so her progress was punctuated by many bumps in the road. One day she called to describe an interaction she’d had with her husband.

“Apparently,” I said, “you’re not tired yet of doing this the stupid way.”

“That seems a little harsh,” she said.

“Really? Have you tried this particular approach with your husband before?”

“Well, yes.”

“How many times, would you say? Once? Twice?”

There was a pause. “Many times.”

“Like hundreds of times, wouldn’t you say?”

“I suppose.”

“So, let me know when you’re tired of chewing gravel.”

“What do you mean?”

“Emotionally speaking, you keep running along—at a pretty good speed—but then you decide to do things your way, and you fall down on your face in the gravel. Each time you get a mouthful of the stuff, and I was just wondering if you were tired of chewing it.”

From very early childhood nearly all of us were taught principles about happiness and relationships that were wrong. Dead wrong. But now we can learn how to find and share Real Love. Despite that hope and direction, our past learning has a very strong influence, so we have a tendency to repeat what we learned. That process can be painful, and sometimes we don’t get tired of it until we’ve chewed enough gravel to motivate us to consistently choose a different way.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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