Several years ago I took voice lessons, and during one lesson my teacher taught me to sing in passaggio, the vocal range above chest voice (where most people speak and sing) but below head voice (also called falsetto). I was having a particularly difficult time breathing correctly. Rather than breathing correctly by expanding my diaphragm down into my belly—which is easier but sometimes unnatural at first when singing—I was using my throat, which proved to be painful.
"Do you know what group of people has the best breathing technique?" my teacher asked.
I had no idea.
"Babies," she answered. "They can scream for days on end without getting tired or sore in their throats. As we grow older, regrettably we learn poor posture and incorrect breathing. In vocal training, we spend much of our time trying to relearn what we did naturally as babies."
Loving is much like breathing. We are all born with an innate yearning to bask in love—to receive it and to give it. We want it like air, but we have our natural desires beaten out of us by society, peers, and well-meaning parents. We need to relearn our natural instinct to breathe love deeply—from our diaphragms and into our bellies.
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