How Big a Rock?

By Greg Baer M.D.

October 23, 2015

People often ask, how much loving should I do? How much should I do for other people? Some people are difficult, they say. Sometimes I’m empty.

It is a common misconception that loving means giving people whatever they ask for, or giving all you have. But that’s not loving. If you give people whatever they ask for, often you’ll give them what can actually be harmful to them—enabling them, for example. And if you give all you have, the result is that you have nothing for yourself or anybody else who has a need.

So how much love to give? As much as you have without becoming drained. Much like the answer to the question, “How heavy a rock should I pick up?” As heavy as you can without hurting yourself.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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