People often ask, how much loving should I do? How much should I do for other people? Some people are difficult, they say. Sometimes I’m empty.
It is a common misconception that loving means giving people whatever they ask for, or giving all you have. But that’s not loving. If you give people whatever they ask for, often you’ll give them what can actually be harmful to them—enabling them, for example. And if you give all you have, the result is that you have nothing for yourself or anybody else who has a need.
So how much love to give? As much as you have without becoming drained. Much like the answer to the question, “How heavy a rock should I pick up?” As heavy as you can without hurting yourself.
