The Three “F” Words

By Greg Baer M.D.

May 16, 2016

Personal Growth

Sometimes there might seem to be so many principles to remember, that we feel overwhelmed. It can be helpful to simply remember just a few principles to guide us when we become confused or distracted. I suggest the three F’s: Feel, faith, fun.

When we have been afraid all our lives—which is the case for most of us—we tend to retreat into our heads, where temporarily we feel safer. But we’re also alone in our heads, and the feeling of safety is an illusion because we are surrounded by a whirlwind of thoughts and fears.

On occasion when frightened people are sharing with me the tornado of thoughts and questions in their head, I suggest that they just FEEL—feel the love I’m offering them right now, feel the absence of anything truly threatening them in that moment, feel the absence of pain when they feel my touch in the present instead of spinning with thoughts of the past and future.

All day we make choices based on what we believe will be the results of those choices. In other words, we are guided by FAITH in what we are thinking or doing. If we have faith in the power of love, the truth, gratitude, and kindness, we WILL be rewarded with the happiness we all want. If however, we are guided by faith in principles and feelings from the past—fear, anger, controlling, shame, and more—we will be miserable.

The end result of having faith in true principles is not just order and predictability. If we have faith in love and in the truth, the reward is genuine happiness. The reward is FUN.

The three F’s interact and synergize. The more we have faith in truth and in love, the more fun our lives become. We feel more, rather than get lost in thinking. The more fun we enjoy, the greater our faith becomes. The more we feel, the more our hearts open to faith and fun. And on it goes. Feel, Faith, Fun.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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