I’ve Decided to Be Happy

By Greg Baer M.D.

September 8, 2014

Roxanne’s childhood had been a disaster, as had the rest of her life, characterized by fear, anger, controlling, bitterness, and loneliness. In short, she had known little but pain. I helped her learn to trust love, and she experienced a remarkable change. Oh, she fought from time to time, hanging on with her fingernails to the habits of the past, but one day she finally understood that her happiness was a CHOICE.

She wrote: “Yippee!! I'm only a few days out from my rebirth day, and STILL feeling soooo loved. I just wanted to share with you the truth about myself that I saw this past weekend.  I think of it really as my FREEDOM list.  This is the list of crap that I am now FREE from as long as I stay feeling loved.  How easy is that?!

“I am now free from a long list of self-inflicted miseries:

Addiction to pain


Legalistically arguing details

Repeating what I say over & over until others just agree to get it to stop

Constantly looking for opportunities to be offended

Seeking power, control & domination over others

Seeking sympathy

Focusing on what I don't get instead of what I do

Living in my imaginary world where everyone else is getting what was supposed to be mine

Feeling anxiety

Disregarding any efforts that other people made to love me

Feeling invisible

“I’m so relieved. I’m so grateful!! I’m also a bit disoriented. Like, NOW WHAT? Definitely wondering "Who am I?" But I'm figuring it out, and I know I’ll succeed. I love being loved. I would never have believed that all this was just a choice, but it is.”

Like Roxanne, we really can CHOOSE to be happy. All it takes is a bit of learning and a lot of faith.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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