How You Can Help Your Child Stop Failing School

Learn what you can do to ELIMINATEā€”not just manageā€”the problems with studying, not caring about homework, resisting help, and more. Really.

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Do You Have a Child Who IHaving Trouble in School or Failing?

In the video above I taught you:

  1. The REAL reason your child is failing to perform adequately in school (and it's not what you think).
  2. Why you just can't seem to help your child do better in school, no matter what you do.
  3. What you can do to ELIMINATEā€”not just manageā€”the problems with studying, not caring about homework, resisting help, and more. Really.
  4. How you can replace the feelings of fear, worthlessness and anger in your child with genuine peace and happiness.

Failing in school is not a small matter:

  • These kids almost always have significant emotional problems. Rarely do they have only a true intellectual handicap.
  • Under-performing in school leads to so many limited opportunities for the rest of their lives: continued education, career opportunities, the ability to maintain stable relationships, the ability to support children.

Very few parents know the real reason their child is having difficulty with schoolā€”with grades, studying, teachers, fellow students.

Why donā€™t they know?

  • Theyā€™re embarrassed that their child is doing poorly.
  • Theyā€™re afraid of looking bad to other peopleā€”friends, teachers, and others.
  • They feel helpless to do anything about it.
  • Nobody has ever told them the real reason.
  • Theyā€™re reluctant to do the intense work required to address all the elements that are involved in a child doing substandard work in school.

Look for these Signs 

YOU have the responsibility of identifying your childā€™s challenges. You have to be very aware.

Grades falling

Are your childā€™s grades failing or falling in school?

Could do better

Do you have a strong feeling that your child could do much better, but simply doesnā€™t?

You worry

Are you plagued with the realization that if your child continues to do poorly, so many doors in the future will be slammed in their face, boxing your child into a corner of poverty and limited choices? 

Always behind

Is your child always behind in his or her homework? Always puts off assignments and does them at the last minute, or fails to do them at all?

Fearful

Does he or she just look small and afraid? Thatā€™s a tough question for a parent to consider.

Worry

Do they worry? This is a big one, so Iā€™ll repeat it: Does your child just have a look of worry on his or her face much of the time? There might be words, there might not. 

Unexplained physical symptoms

Do they have unexplained physical symptoms in the morning before school?

Bullying

Have you directly brought up the subject of bullying and asked them if anybody treats them unkindly at school or anywhere else? Youā€™ll see the answer in their face before you hear it in words.

Ask Them

Have you ASKED them what they like and donā€™t like about school? If they even pause in answering, something is wrong, something they have avoided discussing with you.

No Confidence

Does your child lack confidence?

Pessimistic

Do they seem pessimistic and negative? They might say, for example, ā€œWho cares?ā€

Reluctant to go to school

Is your child often reluctant to go to schoolā€”or even other functionsā€”but isnā€™t quite clear about why? Often they might say, ā€œI just donā€™t want to go.ā€

Frustrated

Do they get frustrated with doing things and just quit in the middle of jobs or homework or even games?

Short attention span

Do they have a short attention span?

Little eye contact

Does your child have difficulty maintaining eye contact with people, possibly even you?

Isolated

Do they mostly spend time by themselves?

Quit caring

Do most things just ā€œnot matterā€ to them anymore? Have they quit caring?

Depressed

Do you see a depressed mood, or loss of interest in their usual activities, or decreased energy?

Worthless

You might see or hear feelings of worthlessnessā€”perhaps said in the common phrase, ā€œI canā€™t do anything right.ā€

This is tough stuff for a parent to realize, but many of us canā€™t seem to make a dent in our childā€™s apparent determination to do as little as possible academically and otherwise. Such children feel small, insignificant, and incapable of trying new things.

They feel less than worthwhile, and this can become crippling, not just in childhood but by establishing a pattern of fear that continues throughout life.

These kids have a greater risk of no friends, loneliness, anxiety, aggressive tendencies, poor self-esteem, under-development of their careers, depression, and suicide. You really do want to be able to help your child, but you just donā€™t know how. 

What would you give to help your child academically and emotionally?

There IS a Solutionā€”How to Help a Child Failing in School

I'm here to tell you that there IS a solution, and weā€™re not talking about controlling or minimizing the poor performance. That's not nearly enough.

Weā€™re talking about a real transformation where your child becomes truly happy, fulfilled, responsible, and, well, a human being again. In most cases, what you get is a child much happier than they were before they began having problems in school.

Welcome to the answers you've been hoping for.

For a long time now, youā€™ve been looking for ways to help your child with his or her confidence. I greatly admire what youā€™re doing right now. Youā€™re looking for answers, youā€™re trying to love and help your child, which is way more than most parents do.

And finally, youā€™re in the right place.

Itā€™s like youā€™ve been paddling around in the middle of the ocean, desperately looking for help, and nowā€”almost unbelievablyā€”itā€™s here. This is the ship youā€™ve been looking for.

How could I possibly make such an extravagant promise? Because I KNOW how to teach parents how to help their children who are who are shrugging their shoulders with disinterest when it comes to schoolwork.

I know how to help children who are failing school. What I teach has been used by uncounted THOUSANDS of parents, and it works CONSISTENTLY.

Iā€™m not trying to sell you something here that weā€™re GOING to do. You donā€™t have to wait. The training begins right now. In the next few seconds, Iā€™ll be teaching you things about your children and yourselves that youā€™ve never known.

I repeat: Iā€™m not here to tell you ABOUT what Iā€™m offering you. Iā€™m beginning now to GIVE you what you need. Itā€™s my gift to you.

What a relief to know that right now youā€™re exactly where youā€™ve wanted to be. You can learn what you need to learn. Finally, you can feel encouraged. You can feel hope. You can help your child. 

And Iā€™m going to help you do that.

Your Child Is Failing in School,

and You Want to Do something About It

I know youā€™ve tried to change things: lots of talking, meetings with teachers and counselors, certainly nagging, standing over their shoulder, programs, yelling, controlling.

But your child is still failing. And youā€™re frustrated and tired.

Youā€™ve been looking for something that worksā€”dying to find itā€”and here it is: principles that have proven to work hundreds of thousands of times all over the world.

You would not be here unless two things were true: 

  • (1) you have a child who is failing in school, AND
  • (2) you care enough to do something about it. 

If parents are thoroughly committed to learning and practicing what Iā€™m going to share with you, predictably I see children  begin to succeed in school and become genuinely happy, even after everything else has failed. 

You become happy too.

It is NOT hopeless.

Iā€™m here to help you, and Iā€™ll be using the insight and experience of counseling with thousands of parents, and from writing 20 books and endless articles on the subject, as well as appearing on 1600 radio and television shows and presenting seminars all around the worldā€”and much more.

You are about to change the world around you, and you donā€™t have to do it alone, which is miserable and frustrating. Youā€™ve already proven that with your own experience.

What You Will Learn That You Donā€™t Already Know 

So now the question that has to be on your mind: what am I going to teach you that you donā€™t already know? What am I going to say about your childā€™s school performance and behavior at home that you havenā€™t already read or heard somewhere?

This is going to be revolutionary for you to hear, so slow down your brain and listen with your soul: What does a child NEED more than anything else? After food, water, and air, the answer is SO obvious, and yet we keep missing itā€”over and over.

To see the answer, letā€™s start with an infant. When an infant criesā€”other than from obvious physical painā€”what does he want? You already know, because you just pick him up. Youā€™re pretty smart. You already know that every child wants to feel cared for. Every child wants to feel LOVED. 

Picking them up and holding them is just a demonstration of that. And if youā€™re genuine in caring about them, they FEEL it.

But infants are relatively easy to love. They smile and melt your heart, make cute little noises, and laugh in ways we never hear anywhere else. Theyā€™re adorable. 

But when they get older, they learn to spill things, make messes, ferociously say NO when you tell them what to do, scream in their car seat, fight with their siblings, refuse to listen to you, say ugly and hateful things to you and other people . . .

And sometimes just give up on trying to succeed and please people, schoolwork being just one example. They get a LOT harder to love, and when that happens, we really donā€™t know what to do. Usually we try to control their behaviorā€”and we might even temporarily succeedā€”but it doesnā€™t last, and we end up with kids who who are failing and unhappy. 

Weā€™re not so happy either.

Loving Your Children Unconditionally

Let me say this another way:

If our children become more difficult to love as their behavior changes, that proves we donā€™t know how to love them UNCONDITIONALLY.

If we love them unconditionally, weā€™d love them no matter what.

But if loving them becomes more difficult when they refuse to do their homework, for exampleā€”or if we hate it that we have to nag them endlessly to improve their school performanceā€”our love is conditional.

Unconditional love or Real Love means caring about another person without wanting anything from then in return, but we DO expect something in return for the ā€œloveā€ we give our children: respect, cooperation, gratitude, and a certain level of reasonable and relatively easy behavior, which which includes them demonstrating an interest in reaching their individual potential in school.

The Real Effect of Anger and Disappointment

Now more about unconditional love: That kind of love would mean that our love would not be affected by what they do. Thatā€™s what unconditional love means.

But we really donā€™t know how to do that. How do I know? We PROVE it every time we become angry, or disappointed, or impatient, or irritated at them. Our anger and disappointment and frustration are undeniable PROOF that our love is not unconditional.

Deep inside, you know that what Iā€™m saying is true, but let me demonstrate further: When other people are angry at YOU, do YOU like it? NO, you donā€™t. Not ever. Nobody does. When other people are angry at us, or when weā€™re angry at other people, weā€™re all saying, ā€œLook at what you did to ME, or failed to do FOR ME.ā€

In anger, weā€™re focused on OURSELVESā€”Me-Me-Meā€”and in that moment other peopleā€”notably our childrenā€”hear only four words, ā€œI donā€™t love you.ā€ When weā€™re angry, weā€™re far too occupied with ourselves to unconditionally love another person.  

I repeat:

When we are angry at another person, including our child, they hear only, "I don't love you."

I promise you that this is true.

No, we donā€™t MEAN to say that, but what else COULD people hear while our words, tone, and behavior are screaming ME-ME-ME? ā€œI donā€™t love youā€ is what YOU hear and FEEL when people are angry at youā€”think about it honestlyā€”and itā€™s what our children hear and feel when weā€™re angry at them. And then we have an anxious child or anxious teenager.

Itā€™s little wonder that they respond with their own anger.

Again, we do NOT mean to do this. We do not mean to hurt our children.

But it was inevitable, because WE were not loved unconditionallyā€”which means being consistently loved without disappointment or anger. We were not loved freely, without conditionsā€”so how could we possibly have learned how to unconditionally love our own children? IMPOSSIBLE.

Nobody is to blame. Our ignorance of Real Love simply perpetuated over generations. We donā€™t know how to love unconditionally because weā€™ve never seen it or felt it with any consistency.

Poor School Performance is Often a Reaction to Not Being Loved Unconditionally

For emphasis, Iā€™m going to say all this in a slightly different way:


When children behave badlyā€”like failing in schoolā€”it is almost always a reaction to them not feeling loved unconditionally. They donā€™t feel loved without disappointment, irritation, frustration, or anger.

This could sound discouraging, even bleak. In some ways it IS bleak. Look at the worldā€”at the utter obsession with things that are distractions from our pain, from our not feeling loved: like endless entertainment, addiction to electronics, anger, controlling people, drugs, alcohol, sex, and on and on.

THERE is the proofā€”in our addiction to all those behaviorsā€”that overall we do not know how to love people unconditionally. If we did, and I speak here with vast experience, these behaviors would not exist.

Children and Teenagers Who are Loved Unconditionally

Naturally Tend to Do Their Best in School

Iā€™ve been teaching unconditional love now for so many years to so many parents that I can tell you this with complete certainty: When a child truly feels loved unconditionally, he or she ENJOYS doing well in life, not just in school.

Instead theyā€™re HAPPYā€”and responsible, and have all those qualities you wish they had.

With sufficient love, there is simply no NEED for a child to resist doing well in school and elsewhere. Happy people donā€™t behave badlyā€”like refusing to study, for example. Period. Full stop. It seems almost like this statement is too broad, too much. Itā€™s not.

Why You're Not succeeding in Helping Your Children

with School Work

How many times have you wondered why a child isnā€™t hearing what youā€™re saying? Thereā€™s an answer, and here it is: Because when youā€™re irritated, your child hears only ā€œI donā€™t love you,ā€ and that is so devastating, that he or she hears none of the rest of the content of what you say.

So THAT is what I'll be teaching you: 

How to LOVE your children unconditionally,

which then gives them a REASON to LISTEN to you.

If you love them unconditionally, they can HEAR you ā€”what youā€™re really sayingā€”because theyā€™re not distracted by their fear, not blinded and deafened by the ā€œI donā€™t love youā€ message. Then it becomes possible for you to teach them anythingā€”like how to be loving and responsible themselves.

And if they have that powerful trifectaā€”they feel loved, and they are loving and responsibleā€”they are guaranteed to be happy, which is the ultimate goal for any parent, or, frankly, any person.

Your Children Can Learn to Be Happy

Your children can learn that being happy is way better than giving up and failingā€”in school or anything else.

Take my hand, and weā€™ll talk about what you can doā€”and how I will support you. It will almost be like starting over in parenting. Youā€™re going to LEARN how to be a real parent, and your child will learn the lessons of life that will benefit him or her for the rest of their lives.

If you implement what you learn here, and if you do it consistently, you simply will not believe the differences youā€™ll see in your child, and in you, and in your family.

Imagine it: 

no more bad grades,

no more resistance to homeworkā€”none

no more ugly words, 

no more tension in the family,

Itā€™s astonishing to see and to feel.

Our children are not bad. Weā€™re not bad. 

We just have not known how to love and teach them.

Loving and Teaching Eliminates Resistance to Learning in Children

What weā€™re doing with our kids IS NOT WORKING.

Loving and teaching them does.

Rarely is it too late to change whatever unproductive behaviors youā€™re dealing with, not if youā€™re really willing to learn and to apply these principles to the interactions with your child. I can promise you, learning how to be a parent is WORTH IT.

Youā€™re about to learn how to ELIMINATE the fear and failure and other behaviors in your children that are hurting them and making you crazy. Really. 

I make you another promise:

Learning to be a loving, effective parent is EASIER than everything else youā€™ve done as a parent.

Transforming, Not Managing Your Children

Weā€™re really going to get into this. This is not a casual effort. Weā€™re not looking to make your children more manageable. Thatā€™s not even close to being enough.

Our mission is to help you to become a powerful and effective parent, and to help your child feel loved, and to be loving, responsible, and genuinely happy. Itā€™s a transformation.

If you ARE truly committed to learning how to parent, Iā€™M fully committed to teach you, and I will bring resources to the table you never thought about. The rewards are spectacularā€”as we have seen in uncounted thousands of families.

There is not a single thing youā€™ll ever do that will ring through the ages more powerfully than being a loving and effective parent.

You can do this, so let's get started.

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