Breaking the Chains to Unhappiness

By Greg Baer M.D.

May 11, 2018

I've never seen the process myself, but I have read in multiple sources that when elephants are very young, the owners tie a rope around a single leg and fasten it to a stake pounded in the ground. The young elephant struggles to free himself, but the rope is sufficiently strong to keep the animal tethered to one spot.

The elephant soon develops the belief that the rope is unbreakable, so he resigns himself to being trapped in one spot. As the elephant grows in size and strength–weighing as much as eight thousand pounds or more–he could easily snap the rope, but he doesn't even try, because he believes that he cannot move.

If the beliefs we acquire when we are young are wrong, they become chains that bind us to unhappiness. As children, most of us were taught that "love" was conditional and that we were not worthwhile, incapable of learning, and helpless. These beliefs are not easily changed, so we keep behaving in ways that unavoidably cause enormous unhappiness.

If we can recognize the lies in our life, we can easily snap the strings that we have allowed to chain us to our unhappiness.


Recognize the lies in your life and snap the chains of unhappiness


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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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