Ella called and said, “I’m doing something wrong. Even though I know better, I still get angry sometimes. I hate it when I get angry.”
“You’re learning,” I said. “There’s no way you can avoid being wrong as you learn. In fact, if you hate being wrong, you’ll tend to hide your mistakes, and then your learning will be slower and more limited.”
“I never thought of it like that.”
“When you say you hate being wrong, you’re strongly implying that you SHOULD be behaving differently, right?”
“Of course. I know better.”
“You know better in your head, but that doesn’t suddenly make you capable of stopping your anger, anymore than you could play perfect tennis after I showed you a video of perfect tennis. You hate your mistakes only because you believe that you should be instantly capable of perfection, just because you know better in your head.”
“So how would it work better to see my mistakes?”
“Just be aware of them. Don’t hate them. Be aware and learn from them, and gradually you will make them go away. You’re on a long journey, and you’re learning to climb. If you hate the next step, you’ll never climb the mountain.”
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