Karen wrote to me: āThe other day on Facebook I posted this: āI locked my keys in the car at work, and by the time I got back to the car, finding help was difficult.
"I hadnāt left a key with people who could have brought me one, and I hadnāt hidden a key anywhere on the outside of the car. So I had to call a locksmith, which was expensive.
"Recently a similar inconvenience occurred when I had a flat tire and discovered that I had no flashlight, no flares, and no air in my spare tire. How many times have I experienced the price of my not being responsible and preparing for such events?āā
āHereās the odd part,ā she continued to me. āQuite a few people made comments to my post, mostly saying things like, āDonāt be so hard on yourself.ā
Or, āIt sounds like you have a habit of harshly judging yourself, and that might not be good for you.ā But I didnāt feel like I was bashing myself, just telling the truth about how behaving irresponsibly creates unhappy situations. And Iāve done my fair share of that in life.ā
Karen revealed a deep truth. When we tell the truth about ourselvesāour fears, our lack of responsibility, our lies, our victimhood, and moreāthe people around us often recognize some of these characteristics in themselves. And they donāt want to face themāwhich would require inevitably difficult changeāso instead they simply encourage us to quit describing these undesirable traits.
In short, people who want to continue living with their long-held lies are not comfortable in any environment where the truth is being told. Do not succumb to the pressure of people who hate the truth. Keep telling the truth about yourself, because thatās what creates opportunities for love and growth.