“I’m stuck,” Mark said.
“Stuck how?” I asked.
“Well, I don’t really know,” he said, followed by meaningless babble.
“If you’re stuck, you’re not trusting.”
“How do you know?” Mark asked.
“Two reasons. First, people feel stuck when they’re afraid, and fear is proof of no trust. Second, there’s no such thing as stuck. Somebody can help you out of this, and if you are still stuck, it means you haven’t trusted anybody enough to ask for help.”
“Well. . .”
“You’re not just stuck. You’re ashamed of being stuck. It’s in your voice and all over your face.”
“Ashamed of what?” he asked.
“Of a lot of things, but in this moment—when you’re not trusting—you can’t bear the shame of not knowing enough to get yourself out of the hole you’re in.”
“Not knowing is weakness,” he said.
“No, not knowing is simply a condition. It’s just information. Not knowing is a problem only if you don’t admit it and do something about it.”
“So, you’re saying it’s okay not to know anything? I have a real problem with people thinking I don’t know anything.”
“Of course, as most people do. But when you don’t know something, the solution is simple: you simply trust those who do know. Easy.”
“When I’m afraid, it seems so counter-intuitive to trust.”
“Oh, I know only too well, but trust is the only way out of fear. Trust is the only way to learn the new truths that will save you. When you don’t trust, on the other hand—because you’re uncomfortable with being ignorant—you can only cling to the familiarity of past lies, and then you’re stuck again.”
When we choose not to trust—however unconsciously—we are stuck with whatever old principles we learned, usually unworkable lies. Trusting enables us to change everything. It’s far easier and more productive than remaining stuck.
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