Jerry was doing his best to learn and apply the principles of Real Love, but one day he said to me, āI keep making stupid mistakes.ā
āShocking,ā I said with a smile.
āWhat are you smiling about?ā
āThat you feel bad. If youāre making a lot of mistakesāand I donāt deny that you probably areāthere are only two possibilities that I can see.ā
āLike what?ā
āEither youāre just a bad person, destined to make stupid mistakes for the rest of your life, or youāre a good person who was simply taught poorly or insufficientlyāand you make mistakes because of how you were taught.ā
I have yet to meet an inherently bad person. Iām not denying that such a person exists, but Iāve never met one. On the other hand, Iāve met a great many people who were never unconditionally loved, and who react unproductively to pain for the rest of their lives. Not only did these people not get loved as they needed, but they were not taught how to love others or how to be genuinely responsible.
Over and over, thousands of times, I have seen that when people persist in learning about Real Love, and in finding it, trusting it, feeling it, and remembering it, they become much happier than they had supposed possible. They also become loving and make the mistakes of fear, anger, victimhood, and so on with far less frequency.
You waste your life if you feel bad about yourself. You learn to genuinely live and be happy when you realize that your mistakes are a result of pain and wrong judgments.