All Those Mistakes

By Greg Baer M.D.

February 13, 2017

Jerry was doing his best to learn and apply the principles of Real Love, but one day he said to me, “I keep making stupid mistakes.”

“Shocking,” I said with a smile.

“What are you smiling about?”

“That you feel bad. If you’re making a lot of mistakes—and I don’t deny that you probably are—there are only two possibilities that I can see.”

“Like what?”

“Either you’re just a bad person, destined to make stupid mistakes for the rest of your life, or you’re a good person who was simply taught poorly or insufficiently—and you make mistakes because of how you were taught.”

I have yet to meet an inherently bad person. I’m not denying that such a person exists, but I’ve never met one. On the other hand, I’ve met a great many people who were never unconditionally loved, and who react unproductively to pain for the rest of their lives. Not only did these people not get loved as they needed, but they were not taught how to love others or how to be genuinely responsible.

Over and over, thousands of times, I have seen that when people persist in learning about Real Love, and in finding it, trusting it, feeling it, and remembering it, they become much happier than they had supposed possible. They also become loving and make the mistakes of fear, anger, victimhood, and so on with far less frequency.

You waste your life if you feel bad about yourself. You learn to genuinely live and be happy when you realize that your mistakes are a result of pain and wrong judgments.


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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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