How You Can Help Your Child Who Drinks Too Much Alcohol

Learn what you can do to ELIMINATEā€”not just manageā€”the drinking. Really.

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Do You Have a Child Who Drinks Too Much?

Look for the Signs.

Do you have a child you suspect might be using alcohol excessively?

They donā€™t usually announce their alcohol use or addiction, but there are signs of it that are fairly consistent:

Comes home late

Do they frequently come in late and go straight to their rooms? Itā€™s a way to avoid your seeing and smelling them while intoxicated.

Grades drop

Has there been a drop in school performance that has no other explanation?

Lying

Do you confirm with others that your child was actually at an activity that he claims to have attended? Lying about where they are is a strong sign of drinking.

Change of appearance

Has there been a change in personal hygiene or concern for physical appearance?

Hidden bottles

Have you searched their room or the family garbage cans outside and found any bottles at all? Non-alcoholics donā€™t hide their bottles.

Change of friends

Has your child suddenly changed their usual group of friends?

Alcohol bottles

Have you found ANY bottles of alcoholā€”empty or fullā€”that didnā€™t belong to you?

Change of attitude

Has there been a change in overall attitude? More difficult or sulky?

If any of this is happening, there is reason to do some of the investigating I just mentioned, and more. 

Itā€™s too important to leave to chance.

An innocent drink turns into a fatal driving accident in minutes.

Drinking is so potentially dangerousā€”itā€™s a drug, it screws up the brainā€”that it can be pretty scary.

Once you learn that your child is drinking, what would you give to change their life, possibly to save their life?

There IS a Solutionā€”

How to Help a Child or Teenager with a Drinking Problem

I'm here to tell you that there IS a solution, and weā€™re not talking about controlling or minimizing the drinking. That's not nearly enough.

Weā€™re talking about a real transformation where your child becomes truly happy, fulfilled, responsible, and, well, a human being again.

In most cases, what you get is a child much happier than they were before they began to drink.

Welcome to the answers you've been hoping for.

For a long time now, youā€™ve been looking for ways to help your child. I greatly admire what youā€™re doing right now. Youā€™re looking for answers, youā€™re trying to love and help your child, which is way more than most parents do.

And finally, youā€™re in the right place.

Desperately Looking for Help for Your Drinking Child

Itā€™s like youā€™ve been paddling around in the middle of the ocean, desperately looking for help, and nowā€”almost unbelievablyā€”itā€™s here. This is the ship youā€™ve been looking for.

How could I possibly make such an extravagant promise? Because I KNOW how to teach parents how to help their children be happy and therefore have no NEED to drink. What I teach has been used by uncounted THOUSANDS of parents, and it works CONSISTENTLY.

Iā€™m not trying to sell you something here that weā€™re GOING to do. You donā€™t have to wait. The training begins right now. In the next few seconds, Iā€™ll be teaching you things about your children and yourselves that youā€™ve never known.

I repeat: Iā€™m not here to tell you ABOUT what Iā€™m offering you. Iā€™m beginning now to GIVE you what you need. Itā€™s my gift to you.

What a relief to know that right now youā€™re exactly where youā€™ve wanted to be. You can learn what you need to learn. Finally, you can feel encouraged. You can feel hope. You can help your child. 

And Iā€™m going to help you do that.

Your Child is Drinking,

and You Want to Do something About It

I know youā€™ve tried to change things: maybe counseling, certainly lots of books, programs, talking, and a ton of worrying. Maybe some yelling and controlling. But your child still drinks.

 And youā€™re frustrated and tired.

Youā€™ve been looking for something that works, and here it is: principles that have proven to work hundreds of thousands of times all over the world.

You would not be here unless two things were true: 

  • (1) you have a child who drinks;  AND
  • (2) you care enough to do something about it.

If parents are thoroughly committed to learning and practicing what Iā€™m going to share with you, predictably I see children lose their NEED to drinkā€”drinking never happens without other emotional problemsā€”and instead they become happy, even after everything else has failed. 

You become happy too.

It is NOT hopeless

Iā€™m here to help you, and Iā€™ll be using the insight and experience of counseling with thousands of parents, and from writing 20 books and endless articles on the subject, as well as appearing on 1600 radio and television shows and presenting seminars all around the worldā€”and much more.

You are about to change the world around you, and you donā€™t have to do it alone, which is miserable and frustrating. Youā€™ve already proven that with your own experience.

What You Will Learn That You Donā€™t Already Know 

So now the question that has to be on your mind: what am I going to teach you about your child's drinking that you donā€™t already know? 

What am I going to say that you havenā€™t already read or heard somewhere?  

This is going to be revolutionary for you to hear, so slow down your brain and listen with your soul: What does a child NEED more than anything else? After food, water, and air, the answer is SO obvious, and yet we keep missing itā€”over and over.

To see the answer, letā€™s start with an infant. When an infant criesā€”other than from obvious physical painā€”what does he want? You already know, because you just pick him up. Youā€™re pretty smart. You already know that every child wants to feel cared for. Every child wants to feel LOVED. 

Picking them up and holding them is just a demonstration of that. And if youā€™re genuine in caring about them, they FEEL it.

But infants are relatively easy to love. They smile and melt your heart, make cute little noises, and laugh in ways we never hear anywhere else. Theyā€™re adorable. 

But when they get older, they learn to spill things, make messes, ferociously say NO when you tell them what to do, scream in their car seat, fight with their siblings, refuse to listen to you, say ugly and hateful things to you and other people . . . 

And sometimes they drink away their pain. They get a LOT harder to love, and when that happens, we really donā€™t know what to do. Usually we try to control their behaviorā€”and we might even temporarily succeedā€”but it doesnā€™t last, and we end up with kids who are still drinking and unhappy.

Weā€™re not so happy either.

Loving Your Children Unconditionally

Let me say this another way:

If our children become more difficult to love as their behavior changes, that proves we donā€™t know how to love them UNCONDITIONALLY.

If we love them unconditionally, weā€™d love them no matter what.

But if loving them becomes more difficult when theyā€™re difficult when they behave badly, our love is conditional.

Unconditional love or Real Love means caring about another person without wanting anything from then in return, but we DO expect something in return for the ā€œloveā€ we give our children: respect, cooperation, gratitude, and a certain level of reasonable and relatively easy behavior, which does not include the symptoms of ADHD.

The Real Effect of Anger and Disappointment

Now more about unconditional love: That kind of love would mean that our love would not be affected by what they do. Thatā€™s what unconditional love means.

But we really donā€™t know how to do that. How do I know? We PROVE it every time we become angry, or disappointed, or impatient, or irritated at them. Our anger and disappointment and frustration are undeniable PROOF that our love is not unconditional.

Deep inside, you know that what Iā€™m saying is true, but let me demonstrate further: When other people are angry at YOU, do YOU like it? NO, you donā€™t. Not ever. Nobody does. When other people are angry at us, or when weā€™re angry at other people, weā€™re all saying, ā€œLook at what you did to ME, or failed to do FOR ME.ā€

In anger, weā€™re focused on OURSELVESā€”Me-Me-Meā€”and in that moment other peopleā€”notably our childrenā€”hear only four words, ā€œI donā€™t love you.ā€ When weā€™re angry, weā€™re far too occupied with ourselves to unconditionally love another person.  

I repeat:

When we are angry at another person, including our child, they hear only, "I don't love you."

I promise you that this is true.

No, we donā€™t MEAN to say that, but what else COULD people hear while our words, tone, and behavior are screaming ME-ME-ME? ā€œI donā€™t love youā€ is what YOU hear and FEEL when people are angry at youā€”think about it honestlyā€”and itā€™s what our children hear and feel when weā€™re angry at them. And then we have an anxious child or anxious teenager.

Itā€™s little wonder that they respond with their own anger.

Again, we do NOT mean to do this. We do not mean to hurt our children.

But it was inevitable, because WE were not loved unconditionallyā€”which means being consistently loved without disappointment or anger. We were not loved freely, without conditionsā€”so how could we possibly have learned how to unconditionally love our own children? IMPOSSIBLE.

Nobody is to blame. Our ignorance of Real Love simply perpetuated over generations. We donā€™t know how to love unconditionally because weā€™ve never seen it or felt it with any consistency.

Childhood and Teenage Drinking is

a Reaction to Not Being Loved Unconditionally

For emphasis, Iā€™m going to say all this in a slightly different way:


When they're drinking alcohol, it is almost always a reaction to them not feeling loved unconditionallyā€”loved with no disappointment, irritation, frustration, or anger.

This could sound discouraging, even bleak. In some ways it IS bleak. Look at the worldā€”at the utter obsession with things that are distractions from our pain, from our not feeling loved: like endless entertainment, addiction to electronics, anger, controlling people, drugs, alcohol, sex, and on and on.

THERE is the proofā€”in our addiction to all those behaviorsā€”that overall we do not know how to love people unconditionally. If we did, and I speak here with vast experience, these behaviors would not exist.

Children and Teenagers Who are Loved Unconditionally Don't Abuse Alcohol

Iā€™ve been teaching unconditional love now for so many years to so many parents that I can tell you this with complete certainty: When a child truly feels loved unconditionally, he or she DOES NOT abuse alcohol.

Instead theyā€™re HAPPYā€”and responsible, and have all those qualities you wish they had.

With sufficient love, there is simply no NEED to drink. Genuinely happy people donā€™t need to to medicate their pain with alcohol. Period. Full stop. It seems almost like this statement is too broad, too much. Itā€™s not.

Why You're Not succeeding in Helping Your Children with their Drinking

How many times have you wondered why a child isnā€™t hearing what youā€™re saying? Thereā€™s an answer, and here it is: Because when youā€™re irritated, your child hears only ā€œI donā€™t love you,ā€ and that is so devastating, that he or she hears none of the rest of the content of what you say.

So THAT is what I'll be teaching you: 

How to LOVE your children unconditionally, 

which then gives them a REASON to LISTEN to you.

If you love them unconditionally, they can HEAR you ā€”what youā€™re really sayingā€”because theyā€™re not distracted by their fear, not blinded and deafened by the ā€œI donā€™t love youā€ message. Then it becomes possible for you to teach them anythingā€”like how to be loving and responsible themselves.

And if they have that powerful trifectaā€”they feel loved, and they are loving and responsibleā€”they are guaranteed to be happy, which is the ultimate goal for any parent, or, frankly, any person.

Your Children Can Learn to Be Happy Without Alcohol

Your children can learn that being happy feels way better than the emotional numbness of being intoxicated, and they will choose to be happy.

Take my hand, and weā€™ll talk about what you can doā€”and how I will support you. It will almost be like starting over in parenting. Youā€™re going to LEARN how to be a real parent, and your child will learn the lessons of life that will benefit him or her for the rest of their lives.

If you implement what you learn here, and if you do it consistently, you simply will not believe the differences youā€™ll see in your child, and in you, and in your family.

Imagine it: 

no more drinking,

no more lying, 

no more withdrawal from the family,

no more loss of interest in everything,

no more tension in the family.

Itā€™s astonishing to see and to feel.

Our children are not bad. Weā€™re not bad. 

We just have not known how to love and teach them.

Loving and Teaching Eliminates

Drinking in Children and Teenagers

What weā€™re doing to help our kids stop drinking IS NOT WORKING.

Loving and teaching them does.

Rarely is it too late to change whatever unproductive behaviors youā€™re dealing with, not if youā€™re really willing to learn and to apply these principles to the interactions with your child. I can promise you, learning how to be a parent is WORTH IT.

Youā€™re about to learn how to ELIMINATE the drinking and other behaviors in your children that are hurting them and making you crazy. Really. 

I make you another promise:

Learning to be a loving, effective parent is EASIER than everything else youā€™ve done as a parent.

Transforming, Not Managing Your Children

Weā€™re really going to get into this. This is not a casual effort. Weā€™re not looking to make your children more manageable. Thatā€™s not even close to being enough.

Our mission is to help you to become a powerful and effective parent, and to help your child feel loved, and to be loving, responsible, and genuinely happy. Itā€™s a transformation.

If you ARE truly committed to learning how to parent, Iā€™M fully committed to teach you, and I will bring resources to the table you never thought about. The rewards are spectacularā€”as we have seen in uncounted thousands of families.

There is not a single thing youā€™ll ever do that will ring through the ages more powerfully than being a loving and effective parent.

You can do this, so let's get started.

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