A Stack of Blocks

By Greg Baer M.D.

October 25, 2022

Cynthia was complaining to me that she had girlfriends who were having ā€œall the funā€ in life.

ā€œWhat kind of fun?ā€ I asked.

ā€œThey have boyfriends all the time, and they talk about having sex, going dancing and drinking, stuff like that.ā€

ā€œIt really does sound like fun, doesnā€™t it?ā€

ā€œYes.ā€

ā€œFrom time to time it actually is,ā€ I said, ā€œbut itā€™s like stacking blocks.ā€

ā€œWhat do you mean?ā€

ā€œHave you ever stacked blocks?ā€

ā€œSure, as a kid.ā€

ā€œAnd itā€™s fun. The pile gets higher and higher, but eventually what ALWAYS happens?ā€

ā€œThe pile falls over.ā€

ā€œYeah, it always does. Same with the kind of ā€˜funā€™ your friends are having. Ever noticed that they rotate through boyfriends?ā€

ā€œYeah, they do.ā€

ā€œSo the stack falls over even faster than you think. They have fun, it wears off, they crash, and then they start all over again. But the stack never stays up. Itā€™s a pretty precarious and frantic way to live.ā€

In the absence of Real Love, Imitation Love can seem pretty great. But it always, always collapses under the effect of its own weight and instability. Why would we ever spend our time in pursuit of anything that always fails in the end?

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real LoveĀ® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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