Susan came to me and said, “I know people who have been in Real Love for about as long as I have—about a year—but they seem to be having a pretty easy time of it. They’re really moving along. I’m not. Something must be wrong with me.”
“Oh, not necessarily,” I said. “Have you ever pulled a rope along behind you on the ground?”
“Yes.”
“Not too difficult, is it?”
“No.”
“Most people who appear to be moving along easily are simply pulling a rope. You, on the other hand, have a plow attached to the end of the rope, and the plow is sunk a foot deep into the ground.
"You are really doing your personal emotional work, facing your fears, and learning to be responsible. That’s like pulling a plow. Ever pulled a plow?”
“No.”
“Of course not. It’s very difficult. That’s why they use mules, oxen, and horses to do it. Or a tractor.
"You can’t compare your work with the work of others. The load is difficult and you really are pulling a plow.
"Don’t be critical of your speed. Be grateful that you’re doing so well with all you’re learning and all the fears you’re facing.”
We all carry different loads. When you’re pulling a plow, don’t compare yourself to people who are simply pulling a rope.
Replace your anger & confusion with peace and happiness.
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