Parenting Issues: Preventing Emotional Destruction with Real Love®

By Greg Baer M.D.

April 26, 2024

Are you concerned about the emotional well-being of your children in today's world? Join me as I draw parallels between the devastating loss of the Great Barrier Reef and the silent suffering of children deprived of genuine love. Preventing the emotional destruction of our children with Real Love® is essential.

Gradual and Sad Destruction

For many years I devoured everything I could read or watch about the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Australia. Why? Because it was the largest biomass on earth, home to countless coral and fish species that added significantly to the beauty and biodiversity of this world. The abundance of this living art inspired and uplifted me.  

But in 2016 Scientific American published an article stating that 93%—yes, you read that right: NINETY-THREE percent—of the coral that makes up the Great Barrier Reef was dead, mostly in the previous 3 years, almost entirely caused by the increasing temperatures of the water, acidification from human-polluted water runoff, and fishing.

I kept reading that number, but I could hardly take it in. This reef was one of the greatest wonders of the world, but now it’s dead. Because we just don't care. We do what suits US. We devastate the planet and each other with equal disregard.  

In our defense, the causative factors increased slowly, and we did not know exactly what was going to happen until it was too late to reverse it. But we DID know that what we were doing to the planet overall wasn’t healthy. It wasn’t loving. We really did know that.  

Swimming above the great reef now, you might conclude that most of the coral was simply white, while other patches were colored. But no, white coral is dead. It’s a skeleton of the previously living organisms 

The Gradual Emotional Destruction of Children

So, the reef’s death occurred gradually, while we did nothing, much like we do as parents. We’ve lived with our own emptiness and pain from infancy, but we didn’t know what to do about it.

Now we see the same pain in our children, and we are surprised when their behaviors and attitudes are out of control, even dangerous. Often we see these changes as sudden, much as “all of a sudden” the water temperature was too high around Australia, and the reef was dead.  

We must pay attention sooner. We must learn to love our children and help them avoid the emotional destruction of the pain that always accompanies a lack of Real Love®.

We must learn to feel loved ourselves, so we can love them and teach them how to live. The reef is so much more beautiful when the coral is alive.

Life is infinitely more beautiful when our souls are alive.  

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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