All our lives we seek the truth, or at least we claim to. But when we find it, we discover that living the truth is much more difficult than we thought. Then we tend to make excuses, saying that the truth is hard, that itās harsh, that it requires too much of us.
But the truth simply IS. Itās not harsh, or kind, or stubborn, or flexible. The truth is just true. It does not change for our convenience, and yet most of us spend our lives trying to change the truth, resisting it, trying to change it, doubting it, ignoring it, and denying it. I see this every day as I talk to people about the unvarying truths that produce happiness in our lives and in our relationships. These Laws of Happiness are as consistent as the laws that govern mathematics. Feeling loved, being loving, and being responsible produce happiness as surely as 2 + 2 = 4. Allow me to share some common responses I hear to statements of the truth.
āBut I donāt like it that 2 + 2 = 4.ā Most of us work very hard at trying to be happy while weāre also being selfish or angry, for example. We want 2 + 2 to equal 5, but this is impossible. Our desires and behavior often contradict immutable, eternal laws, and this can lead only to unhappiness. Solution? 2 + 2 = 4.
āBut everyone else believes that 2 + 2 = 5.ā Yes, they really do. Nearly everyone believes that lying, anger, money, sex, and manipulating will bring happiness, but look at how ānearly everyoneā is doing. Fear, confusion and disillusionment fill the world, so itās fairly obvious that 2 + 2 does not equal five. Solution? Remember that 2 + 2 = 4, and act according to that truth.
āBut all my life Iāve lived 2 + 2 = 5. How can I hope to ever change that belief and my behavior?ā We have to quit repeating the old math. Simply state to yourself and rememberāover and overāwhat you know to be true: 2 + 2 = 4.
āBut what if itās not? What if 2 + 2 doesnāt equal five?ā Isnāt it possible that if I continue to be selfish and manipulative, Iāll somehow manage to be happy? No, and no again. We can be selfish and find a measure of pleasure, or power, or financial wealth, but weāll never experience or maintain genuine happiness.
No matter how we wish it to be otherwise, 2 + 2 = 4. The truthāwhether mathematics or the Laws of Happinessādoesnāt confine us. The truth doesnāt restrict our choices. If we learn and follow the truth, it guides us, empowers us, and gives us an unshakeable confidence that we will be happy and strong. Iām grateful for the truth as a firm and reliable foundation upon which I can build a happy life.