The Beauty of the Long Perspective

By Greg Baer M.D.

March 7, 2011

Not long after discovering Real Love, a man learned that he had a terminal illness. I asked him how he was doing.

"Now that I feel truly loved for the first time in my life, I feel pretty great. The thought of dying just isn't frightening anymore. But the stress of my illness was too much for my wife, so she's leaving me."

"How are you doing with that?" I asked.

"Not too bad. I have some friends now who really care about me--unconditionally--and that's better than anything I've ever had. I wish I could have worked things out with Sharon [his wife], but I'm really doing well. I'm feeling loved, and I'm loving my children better than ever."

"Nice perspective."

"I've decided to focus on what really matters. Sharon is kicking up quite a fuss over division of the property, but I've decided I don't care. I could fight her--probably win, too, what with her walking out for no apparent reason--but I'm just going to give her most of what she wants. I don't want to lose any of the peace of mind I have or waste any more precious time engaging her in a struggle. I'll have less money, but I'll have enough to live on."

My friend has chosen to take the long view of what remains of his life. He's assessed what will matter to him in the end, and he's choosing to focus on those things now. We'd all be happier if we chose as wisely.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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