Parenting—The Single Greatest Cause of All That’s Bad in the World

By Greg Baer M.D.

April 11, 2022

The Effect of Bad Parenting on the World

The lack of parental loving and teaching is the greatest single cause of EVERYTHING that is bad in the world. Parenting. Everything. Think I’m exaggerating? Let’s look at some examples:

  • Smoking and cancer. Why do kids smoke? Because (1) their parents do, (2) their parents never taught them otherwise, (3) their parents don’t look for evidence of their children engaging in this deadly act, or (4) the kids are rebelling against parents they don’t feel loved by. Parents.
  • Global warming. Why have we continued to burn fossil fuels like there will be no tomorrow? Because we are selfish. Period. And where does that come from? When children don’t feel loved by their parents, they do whatever suits them in the moment, whatever makes them feel better or diminishes their pain. Burning coal and gas is cheaper and easier in the short term, so we do THAT. We do it because we never felt loved enough to sufficiently care about anybody or anything else. So, we continue to rape the earth and refuse to spend the time and energy to develop energy sources that spoil the planet to a lesser degree. Parents.
  • Massive personal debt. Why do we accumulate debt that crushes us? With rare exceptions, it’s because we buy stuff we don’t need. We’re in pain from the lack of . . . wait for it . . . PARENTING. So we buy stuff that makes us feel better for a moment.
  • WAR. Who do you think starts and continues wars? People who feel so unloved that they thrill at the feeling of power. They must have more and more. I’ve read tens of thousands of pages of history, and international conflicts are NOT a mystery. World War I resulted in FORTY MILLION people being killed or seriously wounded, all because three cousins—rulers in Europe—were not sufficiently loved and taught by their PARENTS. These “boys” were such entitled brats that they couldn’t have a single civil conversation that could have stopped the entire war. Parents again.

Then we can throw in socioeconomic inequality, racism, crime, prisons, gender confusion, endemic conflict, widespread fraud in business,

What are we doing about these problems? We certainly moan about them a lot, write articles about them, and levy taxes so that we can throw incomprehensible sums of money at them. End result? NO improvement. I wish I were exaggerating. NO improvement.

And why is there no improvement in these problems that are destroying everything from personal happiness to family unity to the survivability of the planet? Because the real solutions ALL BEGIN WITH OUR CARING ABOUT EACH OTHER. That’s called love, and we’re not talking about it, not doing something about it, not educating parents about it. And then, without the foundation for all solutions, we’re trying to fix things. Insanity.

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Changing Our Parenting Will Eliminate Global Problems

All these problems are just symptoms of the underlying pain, fears, anger, and overall selfishness of PEOPLE who were not loved and taught by their PARENTS. But we CAN eliminate every single social and environmental ill if we change our parenting. With love, there is no despair, no fear, no alarm. With love, we can abundantly cooperate and simply solve problems. In truth, with love, most of the problems simply vanish.

But we have to mean it. We have to believe that love and parenting will make a difference. Recently a mother emailed to tell me that her daughter was cutting, burning herself, using psychiatric medications, living in and out of institutions, intermittently attempting to kill herself, and more. The girl was one act from dead. I offered to talk to her on a video call about loving and teaching and changing everything. Her response? She said, “Oh, I don’t think I’m ready for that.” So she wasn’t ready for a real solution, but she was actively preparing for a funeral, much as we are all preparing for the earth’s funeral.

Mom wanted an easy way. Who doesn’t? Ironically, parenting with Real Love IS easier, but it requires change in the beginning, and we’re not comfortable with that. We avoid discomfort at all costs. This mother is not intentionally neglecting her daughter. She just doesn’t know what to do, and she is mortally afraid to do anything that might make HER pain worse. Overall, this is the condition of parenting throughout the world.

There is a way to change it all. We really can learn to understand and find unconditional love. And then we can learn to love and teach our children. From there, miracles just naturally follow.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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