Why Is One Shoelace Longer?

By Greg Baer M.D.

June 5, 2015

I was helping my grandson Jack tie his shoelaces. As we finished, he noticed that one bow was considerably larger than the other and asked, “Why do they make one shoelace longer than the other?”

I smiled and explained that each shoe has just one lace, and one end was longer than the other only because the lace wasn’t properly centered when it was first threaded through the eyelets. To illustrate, I removed the lace, centered it on the first two eyelets, and re-threaded it. Then he saw that the bows were the same size.

Once again we recognize that the end of a process is often determined by the beginning. Regrettably, if the end result is distorted or undesirable in some way, we tend to focus on the flaws in the result, while failing to identify or remember how it all began.

Most of us have become mired in emptiness and fear to the point that we cannot be genuinely happy, but the origins of our pain—where the shoelace was either correctly centered or not—are so far removed from the present that we have no memory or understanding of how we arrived at our present condition.

We need to learn enough about Real Love to truly understand our lives—how we feel, how we behave, and how it all began. Then we can begin the process of removing the laces and starting over.


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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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