In the Real Love books and other material I have talked extensively about our responsibility to love and teach people, especially our children. (See the Master Index on the website under “loveandteach” for many of these references)
Why are these two activities so powerful, especially when they are firmly and fluidly paired? What is the end result of loving and teaching other people?
The natural result of teaching people is that they learn. Learn what? Learn what is right? Maybe, but more generally the result is that people learn more options from which to choose—including multiple “right” or productive choices. Learning leads to greater freedom.
The natural result of loving people?
- They lose their fear, which severely impairs their ability to see their choices.
- They lose their fear, which would otherwise limit their ability to exercise their gifts.
- They lose their fear, so their protecting behaviors have no function, which both (1) allows them to see who they really are and (2) frees them to behave in ways more consistent with who they are.
- When they behave consistent with who they are, they are making real choices and are therefore far more powerful than when they’re just reacting.
In short, when people allow themselves to be loved and taught, they have far more options and also the ability to execute them. They have far greater freedom and joy. It’s a great way to live.
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