I Have To

By Greg Baer M.D.

November 24, 2011

It's now more than a month before Christmas, but already I've heard a dozen people say, "I have to do my Christmas shopping." Doesn't sound like much of a joy, does it? People don't say they have to eat ice cream, or go on a cruise, or get a massage. I have to strongly implies a sense of obligation, not delight, and we use the phrase a great deal—in association with our relationships, for example—which is an indictment of why we really live.

If you find yourself burdened with obligations, you might ask yourself if they're really worth carrying. Many things we do are simply not worth the price we pay to do them. But if something is worth doing—loving a partner, serving a friend, looking into the eyes of a child—we might consider doing it freely and avoiding the deadening belief that we have to.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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