I often find myself reflecting on the concept of being "okay," especially when I talk to clients like Nicole, who have spent much of their lives bouncing from one tumultuous relationship to another.
When she told me she was "okay," it struck me how often we use that term to mask our true feelings. It’s a phrase that suggests stability, yet it often hides a deeper vulnerability.
In my experience, true emotional stability and strength comes not from merely surviving calm moments but from thriving in the face of life’s inevitable turbulence.
Learn how Real Love® provides true emotional stability.
The Illusion of Being "Okay"
Nicole had bounced from one man to another all her life, almost never living without a pathologic relationship. On one day when she called me, she was between men. I asked her how she was doing.
"I'm okay," she said.
We hear this answer a lot when we ask people how they're doing, and we tend to answer in the same way when asked that question.
But rarely is that the truth. What we really mean by "okay" is that nothing terrible is going on around us, we're not being inconvenienced or threatened in that particular moment, our hair is not on fire.
When we say we're "okay," we're not describing ourselves, only our environment.
The Airplane Analogy: Stability Under Stress
Suppose we design an airplane whose wings are strong enough to stay attached to the body of the plane only during level flight and with no wind. Is the plane okay? Hardly.
At the first turn, or the first gust of wind, the wings will fall off, so even during level flight without turbulence—when the wings are still attached—the plane is not okay.
Most of us have wings that remained attached only when there is no stress. When people are nice to us, when our finances are stable, and when we don't feel otherwise threatened, our wings appear to be firmly fixed, but the moment we experience turbulence, they fall right off.
Real Love®: The Key to True Emotional Stability
Real power in life comes from being able to continue flight when the wind blows and when sharp turns are required.
With sufficient Real Love®, we have that power.
We can choose to be loving and happy regardless of our circumstances, and that is when we're truly "okay."
Replace your fear and confusion with peace and happiness.
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