Real Love—The Quick and Easy Way

By Greg Baer M.D.

January 31, 2011

With minimal investigation, most people recognize the potential of Real Love. When it comes to healing wounds and finding genuine happiness, it's the only power in the universe that makes sense. So why do so many people begin an investigation of Real Love but then fail to pursue it until they achieve the joy they seek?

Simple. We all want rewards to be quick and easy. We want to invest as little time and effort as possible yet reap great rewards. So most people read a little in the Real Love books and quit, because they don't experience enough reward for their efforts.

Here's the irony. The rewards of Real Love ARE quick and easy. What baffles people is that the rewards of Real Love don't come with more work. The rewards come with more faith.

Not long ago I talked to Cindy, who for years had read Real Love books, attended conference calls, even hired a couple of coaches. She called me and said she was frustrated. She was still empty, angry, and alone. "Maybe I'm not trying hard enough," she said.

"Nah," I said, "you don't have to try harder. You need to trust more."

I suggested that she let go of everything she thought she knew and that she trust me completely—that I wouldn't hurt her and that I could take her in a direction of feeling loved and happier. "What do you have to lose?" I asked. "You've been doing things your way for decades, and it's not working."

So she let go and trusted. Sure, there were many times she became afraid and resisted, but I reminded her that her fears and resistance had never worked, so she made the decision to trust—over and over. She allowed me to love her. She trusted me enough to tell all the truth about herself—the anger, controlling, fear, and more—instead of just revealing the easy things. She called every day to get filled up with love.

Eleven days after I first spoke to her, she said, "I'm happier than I've ever been in my life—happier than I ever thought possible, actually. My daughter is happier, my husband can't believe I'm telling him the truth, and I've even begun to mend fences with my in-laws. I can hardly believe the changes. I feel lighter, easier, free."

Change doesn't have to be difficult. Sure, it can be uncomfortable in the beginning, but Cindy's life before Real Love—when she was lying, attacking, acting like a victim, and running—was utterly exhausting. And without hope, because these behaviors never result in happiness. It was scary for her to offer trust, but she discovered that after the initial fear, a life of truth and loving was far easier than what she'd always done. And in eleven days she found a measure of happiness that had eluded her for a lifetime.

So Real Love is faster and easier than everything else. All that's required is faith. This makes it easy to answer the question, How long does it take to experience the miracle of real love? Answer: as long as you choose.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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