By Greg Baer M.D.

February 26, 2018

A desire to understand is good.
A demand to understand events and people beyond what is reasonable—endlessly asking “why?”—can be destructive.

A desire to heal is good.
A demand to heal too quickly can be disappointing and even hurtful.

A desire to be happy is good.
An insistence on being happy always—with no interruptions—is impossible and guarantees disappointment.

A desire to contribute is good.
A demand to contribute—to control—is harmful.

A desire to learn is good.
Learning without application can become a fruitless use of time and energy.

A desire to grow is good.
A desire to grow without frustration and pain is frustrating and exhausting.

A desire to connect is good.
A desire to connect with some people can be only frustrating and empty.

A desire to love is always good.
An insistence that our love be received is arrogant and usually painful.

Fill your life with desires.
Choose them wisely.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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