It’s All Proven with Behavior

By Greg Baer M.D.

April 4, 2018

Somebody wrote to me and said, “I have a friend who used to complain with every word she spoke. All day. About everything: her husband, the weather, her boss, her coworkers, the traffic, her kids. Everything. And now she has stopped complaining. I mean, stopped completely. Really. It happened gradually, so at first, I didn’t notice it. But she has stopped. It’s a miracle. I asked her what happened to change her like that, and she said, ‘Real Love.’ I think I’m going to look into this. There has to be something there to change her like that.”

People often tell me they understand a particular thing, but rarely is that true. We don’t truly understand a principle unless it changes our perspective, our judgments, our feelings, and—the final and most important criterion—our behavior. If I claim to understand Real Love, but I’m still afraid, angry, and controlling, I don’t understand love. I partially comprehend it in my head, but I don’t really understand it until I feel it to the point that my behavior is changed. Love is a choice (behavior) and the actions that follow (behavior).

It’s quite a miracle to watch people understand principles and apply them so thoroughly that they behave differently. They’re happier. How fun is that?

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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