Jill called me and told me that she was so angry at her husband she could spit. She began to deliver a litany of his "crimes," and after thirty seconds or so I said, "Do your feet hurt?"
"What?" she asked. "My feet?"
"Yes, your feet. When you have a tantrum about somebody else, it's like you're jumping up and down on broken glass. The other person rarely even cares, but you keep jumping up and down, cutting your own feet to shreds. So I was wondering if your feet were hurting."
Anger doesn't help anyone. It doesn't help the other person, it makes you completely selfish and alone, and it destroys relationships. Now, I am NOT saying that you SHOULDN'T be angry. Oh no, not at all. But simply venting on and on is only harmful.
If you're angry, fine, but share that feeling with someone capable of loving you and helping you see wiser choices. THAT is what we can do with anger, instead of jumping up and down on broken glass.