The Bond Formed Under Fire

By Greg Baer M.D.

January 2, 2017

I have spoken to many men who have been in battle, and often they form a profound bond with each other. They have shared an experience that others will never know, and the sharing draws them closer.

This bond of battle, however, does not confer happiness on those who have it, nor do they tend to share emotions other than those they experienced while under fire. Outside the battlefield they tend to drift apart, other than for the occasional reunions, which are commonly lubricated by alcohol.

Is it possible for bonds—even deeper bonds—to be formed under conditions other than gunfire and artillery shelling? Yes, because I have seen them on uncounted occasions. In truth, we are all under fire—from the shells of anger, disapproval, pain, fear, and the myriad distractions of the world, but all this conflict tends NOT to lead to lasting connection between us as human beings.

We’re under fire, even from each other. It’s real, and it destroys lives emotionally and spiritually all over the world. It’s killing relationships. But we don’t have to be affected by the turmoil. We can bond with the power of love for each other.

Love transcends the battle. Love heals the wounds of trauma and eliminates the accompanying pain. Love forms unassailable connections between us, even while we’re under fire. Love is what we need, and we can find it.

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About the author 

Greg Baer, M.D.

I am the founder of The Real Love® Company, Inc, a non-profit organization. Following the sale of my successful ophthalmology practice I have dedicated the past 25 years to teaching people a remarkable process that replaces all of life's "crazy" with peace, confidence and meaning in various aspects of their personal lives, including parenting, marriages, the workplace and more.

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