November 23, 2011

Christine called, and I could almost feel her shaking her head. “I just do not understand,” she said, “why I treat James so badly sometimes. Everything is fine for a while, and then I blow up at him. Later, when I look back, what he did to provoke me seems minor. What’s wrong with me?” We’ve

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November 21, 2011

Lee Ann called me and said, “My husband is leaving me, our marriage is awful, our children fight all the time, and I can hardly drag myself out of bed in the morning.” What can I do? I suggested she read a couple of Real Love books, which she did. She also went to the website

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November 14, 2011

This is a wonderful season. I love the lights, the music, the food. But most of all I like it that at this season more than any other our thoughts tend to turn to the possibility of loving the people around us. We’re more thoughtful. We give more. We smile more. We speak to each

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November 9, 2011

Stephanie called me to say that her 14-year-old daughter, Lee Ann, was out of control: angry, sexually promiscuous, having problems in school, and more. Questions revealed that Stephanie had felt unloved all her life, and she had reacted to her pain with alternating anger, controlling, and running. When Lee Ann behaved badly, Stephanie became afraid and

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November 7, 2011

Lara called me and said, “Just when I think I’ve learned something about loving people unconditionally, my mother calls me, and after five minutes I’m a complete basket case. Maybe I don’t know anything about loving.” “As I remember, you have a six-year-old son?” I asked. “Vince.” “And I think you told me that you take Vince to

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