November 9, 2011

Stephanie called me to say that her 14-year-old daughter, Lee Ann, was out of control: angry, sexually promiscuous, having problems in school, and more. Questions revealed that Stephanie had felt unloved all her life, and she had reacted to her pain with alternating anger, controlling, and running. When Lee Ann behaved badly, Stephanie became afraid and

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November 7, 2011

Lara called me and said, “Just when I think I’ve learned something about loving people unconditionally, my mother calls me, and after five minutes I’m a complete basket case. Maybe I don’t know anything about loving.” “As I remember, you have a six-year-old son?” I asked. “Vince.” “And I think you told me that you take Vince to

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November 4, 2011

One night as I was talking in my driveway with a friend from New York City, he said, “What is that sound? I can hardly hear myself think.” I had no idea what he was talking about. “What sound?” I asked. As he described the noise, I realized that he was talking about the insects—mostly katydids—and tree

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November 2, 2011

Early in your experience with Real Love, undoubtedly you encountered—or will encounter—the “drowning story.” Allow me to summarize it here: The Drowning Story Imagine that you and I are sitting together by a pool, where we are enjoying a pleasant lunch, a warm tropical breeze, and the soothing music of a live band. But then someone in

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October 28, 2011

A couple came to talk to me. “I just don’t think I can do this anymore.” Pam said. “Bryce never wants to have anything to do with me or the girls. He’d be just fine if we never bothered him and he watched sports all day. He’s not even interested in sex. The only reason we’re

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